Five Simple Things (July 26)

 Hello.

Here are five things this week.

1. These tomatoes.

I think my favorite treat from the garden, right off the vine is cherry tomatoes. Nothing says summer more than the smell of tomatoes and the scent the vines give off. I just love it!

2. This sandwich.

Always with the Dagwood sandwiches.

3. This garden.

Our little garden always makes me so happy. Gardening and growing plants and flowers helps my mental health so much. It's a way to be in a place where people aren't talking, or saying things to me that affect me. It's also a great place to think about things without distraction. There's a lot of people, some I'm related to, that say things that hurt a lot. Through years of therapy I have realized that those people don't realize that what they say to someone has great impact. When I am in my garden area I think about those times. We all are guilty of saying things that we don't mean, and have our words come across hurtful. But not taking time to correct those words, is where the disconnect lies. Reaching out to people that you hurt, or that you feel you may have upset, is a way to grow with that person in a better way. Unfortunately, I've had to come to accept that the people that say these hurtful comments, are doing it on purpose. Mostly because, the reaching out never happened over those years. And that's okay. It's more of a reflection of them than it is me. I used to get upset, and cry for hours as to why I couldn't get these people to see me for the person I am and not the image they have of me they created, or allowed someone else to create. It hurts still, but accepting it has been a journey. Being an empath, you try so hard, even at your own expense, to mend these rifts. We try and try, but eventually, we get to a point where that attempt is not met with success and we shut that door. We don't just shut the door, but we lock it. Even through an apology, which we will accept and be grateful, we will never unlock that door again. That is where I currently am with those people. Behind a locked door wondering why, all of these years, they didn't want, or have the key. For now, I will enjoy my garden and spend time with the ones that actually walk through that door. And, Hardy is a good garden assistant likes to taste the snap peas and blueberries. Our garden therapy is good for him, too.🫛🫐

4. These boxes.

This week was a week of gifts. Nécessaire came on Monday, with the best bodywashes ever. Skylar and I love the eucalyptus scent, and Jeff loves the santal scent, but their rosemary haircare options are my absolute favorite! I do miss their metal bottles, though, so I hope they switch back soon. Kiwi Eco Box came on Wednesday and my favorite thing in the box this month is the body brush. I've been needing a new one for awhile now and it was perfect timing. And Misfits Market shipment came and this one was mostly centered around vegetables and fruits. I am looking forward to trying Misfits Market's own brand of organic peanut butter labeled Odds & Ends. We got the crunchy version this week, and it's a favorite in our house.

5. This lunch.

With the sun out and the weather not as hot, Skylar and I decided to have some lunch outside on our picnic table. Of course, where there is food, Hardy is right there to see what he gets. We just love how much he enjoys being with us. He loves us as much as we love him.

One last thing:

We love when we go to Lowe's to grab a few things needed for the bus or the house that they offer these Build and Grow Kids Project Kits from Lowe's. They are a great way to enjoy a quick and easy activity and build something that you can play with, or use. This one was a hit, because we all got to play and keep score. We all tried to beat each other's score and the quality of the activity is great. It is solid wood and actually holds up under competitive gaming that happens in our house.

Positive affirmations this week:

You still have time and you aren't too old. Remind yourself that your life matters and the end has yet to come. Keep going!

You can do this!🌈

Have a nice weekend.

Five Simple Things (July 19)

 Hello.

Here are five things this week.

1. This kitty.

The different faces of Eleven. I've had a lot of cats growing up, and two others as an adult. Eleven is the only cat that I have had that acted human on different occasions. Her personality has been such a nice thing to have since losing my last cat, Meia. Meia was my best friends, regardless of being an animal. I believe animals come into our life, similar to humans, to help us. Eleven has helped me during some of my worst mental health days. I hope I have helped her on her hard days, too.

2. These peaches.

It's that time of year and I am loving it. In season fruits are the best right now.

3. This sunset.

West coast sunsets are the best sunsets that I have seen. The pink/red/orange skies are breathtaking. No matter where my life takes me, these are the skies that I will always talk about for the rest of my life.

4. This soap.

I have been having issues with redness on my cheeks and recently found out that it could be Rosacea. Which comes with age in some people. No one in my family has Rosacea, and a lot of times it is hereditary. I am leaning more towards it being the water in the house we are in, because of how old it is, but this rose facial soap from Dr. Botanicals has helped lessen some of that redness.

5. These sheets.

My mom gifted these sheets to Skylar when we were in Arkansas back in April. He is going to use them on his bed on the bus, once his room is completely finished. He is excited to be using them and how they remind him of where he was born. Go Hogs!

One last thing:

We have been downsizing things within our house the last few weeks and this week we took three large boxes to Safe Haven Humane Society. The same place we adopted Hardy from back in 2011. We have donated to this place for several years and with a location now in our city, it makes it so much easier to give back to a place that does so much for animals.

Positive affirmations this week:

Always been kind to your mind. You deserve the love that you give to others.

You can do this!🌈

Have a nice weekend.

Five Simple Things (July 12)

 Hello.

Here are five things this week.

1. This moment.

Skylar got back his pictures from our trip back in April. He shot a lot of pictures on his film camera, which was Jeff and my first film camera we bought to document Skylar's birth and growing up. Watching him look through them with a smile on his face made my day. I am so happy that old Minolta film camera is getting new life.

2. This garden.

 

I just love our little garden every season. It's small, but it's worth it.

3. These boxes.

Misfits Market and Mighty Nest came this week. We all loved the mango bites in this shipment. They will definitely be something we add to our future orders. And the Mighty Nest Mighty Fix this month was perfect. Sunblock is always a plus, and the Sun Bum brand is one of our favorites. The smell alone reminds me of summer time.

4. This rainbow.

Always seeking out the rainbows during or after the rain.

5. These pancakes.

Delicious pancakes with a tiny doggie that would like proof of that deliciousness.

One last thing:

Keep this list in mind when shopping for in-season produce. It's important to avoid unnecessary additives in what you eat. This list could have more added to it over the years as large amounts of pesticidal residue continues to show up in commercial farming. The best way to avoid exposure is to look for produce that doesn't use as much pesticides. Even organic produce uses a form of pesticides, but the exposure has been reported to be lower. The Dirty Dozen doesn't make the list for overall exposure to pesticides, they make the list because of the amount. 

Positive affirmations this week:

You aren't alone. There are others dealing with anxiety and depression every day just like you do. You aren't weak. You aren't weird. You aren't alone. If anyone makes you feel like you aren't allowed to feel your feelings, they aren't people that you should allow to be part of your good days. A lot of people will try to tell you that your mental health issues are a weakness. What's weak is, not reaching out, or relying on your people that actually do support you 100% when you have bad days. If your bad days are really bad, reach out to someone more qualified to help you get through those days; be it a hospital emergency room, or calling 988. You are enough and please remember, these days are only temporary.

You can do this!🌈

Have a nice weekend.